Supporting an Adoption

Via – A Step Ahead Adoption Services

Friends and family – here are some tips to help you help us during our pre-adoption phase:
~ DO accept our decision to adopt without question.
~ DO accept our choice of child regardless of his/her race, heritage, age, social background, etc.
~ DO remain positive and enthusiastic during waiting periods.
~ DO offer to give practical help if you don’t mind giving us your time.
~ DO respect our choice not to disclose details about our personal life and our decisions.
~ DON’T tell us that if we adopt a child, we will get pregnant and have a child of “our own.” Adoption does not cure infertility, and our adopted child will be our own child!
~ DON’T react as if adoption is a “second best” or “noble” choice.
~ DON’T question our capability or readiness to parent a child.
~DON’T incessantly ask for news while we are waiting to adopt – you can be sure that we will tell everyone when there is news to share.
~ DON’T probe about the details of our child or birthparents—we will tell you what we are comfortable sharing.

Here are some tips to help you help us during our post-adoption phase:
~ DO be happy for our new child and us.
~ DO respect that we need quiet time with our new child to bond and adjust.
~ DO understand that we might not be able to fulfill your needs as quickly as we did before we became parents.
~ DO respect our style of child rearing.
~ DON’T feel sorry for our adopted child.
~ DON’T make demands for our attention or our time during our adjustment phase.
~ DON’T criticize our desire to have and maintain a relationship with our child’s birth family.

Home Study

So Dave and I have been very, very busy getting all of our paperwork completed for our home study.  When they say there’s a lot of paperwork they are not kidding. On top of the paperwork we’ve had to have a background check, get our fingerprints done and medical physicals….. I’m exhausted!

Dave and I have our last visit with our home study social worker today.  Once we get her approval and our fingerprints and background checks come back we can start sending our profile to potential birthmom’s.

Once we are matched with a birthmom we then have to pay the entire adoption fee up front.  This is why we need your help.

We’d like to give a great BIG THANK YOU!!!!!! to all those that have donated so far.  We truly couldn’t do this with out you.